Even Superman Had A Day Job

Every single time I’m on TV, people tell me- you are a natural on television, you should have your own show. 

Every single time I write or vlog or teach a yoga class, I hear it again. You are a natural, you should do this full time.   I’m not too bad at my day job either. Somehow talking to angry parents, wrangling principals and solving problems is a skill set I’ve gotten the hang of this past year. 

I happen to be capable of lots of things and I’m not sure why people think you should only do one thing. 

As much as I admire people who go all in, quit their job and chase their dreams, I am not built that way. I have to deal in my reality and reality is that bills need to be paid. There is still some massive financial fallout from my divorce. Those 3 children that are my whole world, they are expensive! They need all kinds of stuff: a place to live, lights, hot water, a car to drive back and forth to college, clothing, medicine for asthma, insurance, therapy for anxiety that I insurance doesn’t cover and we won’t even talk about what my grocery bill looks like because basically I breed giant humans.

I can’t live in an online fantasy world, where sponsored posts and TV segments and yoga classes fully support my family. To be honest, my day job (s) funds my Dream! 

I read and study a lot. Every single piece of millionaire advice references multiple streams of income. Take a look at any business person that you admire and you will see they have several businesses. 

I haven’t quit my job because I just can’t get caught up in thinking struggling to work for myself is the only way. Why struggle if I don’t have to? Why borrow money? Why make it so hard?  Full time entrepreneurship is difficult and because of my previous life choices (marriage/divorce/debit/credit repair/single Mom of3) I can’t just throw caution to the wind and chase my dreams. Instead, I keep my day job, use my time wisely, my body on needs about 6 hours of sleep and still chase my dreams all while having a roof over my head and taking care of my children.

The goal is not 1 slowly dissolving project or 1 product or yoga studio or TV show or book that takes off. The goal is always multiple streams of income, following all of my passions and sharing my story along the way.  

There are several ways to follow your dreams, so don’t let people on the internet (including me) have you believing that struggling entrepreneur, jump off a cliff, all or nothing is the only way.

I have a lot of passions and several dreams to chase, but even Superman had a day job.   

 Superman Had A Day Job 

Superman Had A Day Job 

My Love Life...not for public consumption.


Here’s why you won’t see any posts about my love life.


1. It’s none of your business. Which is the most odd thing for me to say. This girl, who openly shares so much about her life. I am purposely choosing not to share that part.


2. I don’t always know what I’m doing. Listen, I said “to death do us part” to my ex-husband and neither of us is dead. So... I would prefer to take my L’s in private.


3. For his sake. It is my choice to be a “public figure” I don’t think he should have to have his privacy invaded because of how I post. To be honest, this was a lesson I learned in my last relationship. I posted a lot of our comings and going and him being a good guy in general and that still ended. Not that I regret our time together or the posts, because it was a significant chunk of my life; but somethings should just be for us.


4. The way some of y’all are set up, you are still following him (my ex-boyfriend) and we haven’t been together in 2 years.


5. So much of what people post is flat out bullshit or make believe. Seriously, I can show you a screen shot right now of a girl who posted her #ManCrushMonday and a screen shot of her "man" in my DM, about an hour later AND every other day after that. So, yeah - what I'm not about to do is have myself out here looking stupid. 

 
For now, there are pictures but they stay on our camera rolls.

Also, for the record, I am happily, um exploring my options... but unless you happen to see us out, you won’t know who he is. You may see an occasional “we” or a post where it is obvious I am not alone, but you won’t see any “look how in love we are” selfies. I believe there is a big difference between keeping my love life private and being secretive. Oh, and before you go looking through my social media feed - the dudes that comment the most are the ones trying to get my attention and probably not him. 

 Love. 

Love. 

Gorgeous and So Very Gray

I’m going gray...fast and
I am letting my gray grow out, again!
Depending on how long you’ve been following me, I’ve tried it a couple times before. The first time when I decided to ditch my relaxer and go with the natural hair movement; and again when I chopped all my hair off to donate to Locks of Love.
I am trying again. Coloring it has become almost an every 2 week process and sometimes it doesn't even last that long.  There are weeks it gets colored and more often then not, the next morning there is a gray shinning bright and I’m kind of over it. I’ve had gray hair since I was in high school, so as much as I would love to blame my age or children for it, I’m pretty sure it’s just genetic. It’s also a trait I’ve seemed to passed on to my 18 year old son, who already has gray hair, sorry kid!

My gray doesn't seem to be growing in a graceful, sprinkling throughout my head, it seems to be growing down.  Almost completely white at the roots and then black!  I haven’t colored my hair in 6 weeks, so that black may just be left over color, I'm not sure. 
I have been transitioning with braids, letting my gray roots show and added some gray to the braids.
I’m a little too vain to just let it grow out and look crazy. Y’all know that’s not going down, like ever!
It will likely stay braided or weaved up until I grow the gray out to a place I like.

You also know how I get bored and/or impatient so I could throw it all away and die it back to black or chop all the color off and have a super short all gray pixie. You just never know, but for now, here’s to being gorgeous and gray.


 

Eat, Drink and Feed Plenty!

I am so excited to be a partner with Harvesters this year.  Their mission to feed the hungry and the food insecure right here in KC is something close to my heart.  I can tell you first hand that I have seen those who are food insecure and how that affects their everyday lives, especially children. I can't think of a better way to help, than giving money to an organization that does so much for those in need of food.  From back snacks at schools, to food pantries to fresh fruit and veggies and soup kitchen, Harvesters does so much to make sure those who are food insecure have options. 

The Forks & Corks event is the best way to Eat, Drink and FEED PLENTY! A night of great food, drinks, music and people.  You will have a chance to eat sample food from some of the best chefs in the area, crafted cocktails and dance the nigh away - all with people who are all there to raise money for a great cause. 

I had a chance to go to the preview party and sample some of the vendors and you will not want to miss it! Use code: DISCOUNT20 to get tickets at http://forkscorkskc.com/  Hurry before they sell out! Because they do every year! 

 

 

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Action Packed Basketball Around the Globe

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My children and I just experienced the World Famous Harlem Globetrotters game! So fun, full of action, music and non-stop family fun.  

I have fond memories of my cousins and I attending Globetrotters games and loving every second of it.  This was no different, well other than we were sitting court side! Sitting that close to the action, giving the players high-fives, getting the coach a cup of water is an experience that my children won't ever forget. 

Opening with the nostalgic "Sweet Georgia Brown" and ball tricks, to throwing water in the crowd to climbing on top of the goal, the Globetrotters put on an unforgettable show! 

Just in case, you think you've seen it all before, they've introduced the "Flying Globies" a group of talented athletes who use trampolines to do some high flying, acrobat type dunking!!! So cool and the perfect addition to the show. 

I love that they include local school groups and talent between quarters and half time. The end of the game, all fans have a chance to come down to the court to get autographs for free, definitely something you would pay for at other events. 

It's show you need to catch when it comes to town. If you are getting tickets, you can SAVE 25% for ALL Harlem Globetrotters Games with promo code FUNFAM

 http://harlemglobetrotters.com/tickets 

 

 

All Dressed Up & No Where To Go!

I'll be honest.  My New Years Eve plans usually consist of me in pajamas, playing games with the kids, baking and watching various year in review from my couch.  Just in case this year is different, I partnered with Swap.com to get this dress! 

 Little Black (glitter) Party Dress! 

Little Black (glitter) Party Dress! 

 

Cute, right?! Black and glittery, you really just can't go wrong.  Swamp.com is an online consignment shop.  It has millions of items - literally.  Some of the clothes are new, a ton of them brand names and toys too.  It has become my new go to find affordable holiday items for the whole family.  My last shopping haul included Hollister jeans, Loft skirt, Play Station games and Addidas leggings.  All name brands, all for under $50 plus free shipping.  

Don't just take my word for it.  Head to Swap.com and see for yourself.  It is the perfect place to find yourself a party dress or clothes for a family photo shoot.  

Ready to shop? Use my code: 

25HOLIDAYCHEER for 25% off your purchase (for new shoppers) and my code expires 12/31/2017 - so get to shopping! 

 

 

 

 

 

 

*Disclosure: I was compensated for my review.  All thoughts and opinions are 100% mine. 

First Ever Winter Fest!

For the first time ever, Worlds of Fun has opened their gates for winter fun! And by winter, I almost mean summer because it was 75 degrees yesterday when we visited. 

The park is decorated with thousands of lights and a 7foot Christmas Tree that is gets "turn on" via the giant switch every night at 5:30.  So many lights with different themed and hundreds of photo opportunities for that perfect holiday card.  There are shows every hour with all your favorite songs, rides, ice skating, cookie decorating, letters to Santa, photos with Santa, hot chocolate, rides and so much more! 

The ice skating and cookie decorating are extra, but the giant cookies and the sweetest Mrs. Claus ever are well worth it! *pro-Mom tip, decorate the cookies at the very end or at least when you are finished with the rides, because they come in a box that you will have to carry around!  Tickets for admission start at $25, but you can purchase other tickets that are all inclusive and have meals too. *pro-Mom tip - buy online and save a little money, especially on parking. 

There are so many characters waling around and wanting to take pictures, quite a few rides open and all of Snoopy's Play Place and cool petting zoo.  I would say it's best to get there as close to 5 o'clock as possible.  That way you could do the merry go round or another ride and be right up front for the tree lighting at 5:30.  It's fun for all ages and not to missed this year! 

*Disclosure: I was given tickets for admission, but all thoughts are mine as always.  If you have any doubts about if it's worth, my 18 year old (who doesn't like much of anything) said it was fun!!!

Hot Mess Mom Does Not Equal Real Mom. Stop It!

It's been bugging me for a while and since this is where I write and tell you how I'm feeling, here it goes. 
I am not sure when the "I'm a hot mess Mom"  started to mean you are a real Mom,but it doesn't and it's pretty annoying. 
Stop it.
When did not combing your hair and wearing pajamas in public mean you are a good Mom who's keeping it real? 
In fact, I believe it means you need to reevaluate your life and it's kind of a flip off to those of us who work really hard to keep things together. 
Don't get me wrong, there are definitely days when I don't have it together,when kids act crazy,when I'm struggling with balancing it all,but never does that mean that can't be bothered to put on pants to go to the grocery store. 

Am I TV ready Mom that you see on Fox 4 twice a month,  the perfect make up Mom, wearing stilettos to work Mom, Pinterest perfect decorated, spotless house Mom, no. 

I am however, doing my hair, putting on some lip gloss and getting my kids to school on time with a packed lunch, making dinner, throwing the dishes in the dishwasher and helping with homework, taking them to practice, making a to-do list and getting shit done Mom.

I think we've somehow we've gotten off track by watching the viral Facebook videos of the Moms guzzling wine and calling their kids assholes. 

Again, yes, my children can be a pain in ass and sometimes they make you want to drink; but come on. That in no way makes you a more real Mom. There are so many women I know who would give anything to be a Mom, who waited and prayed and hoped for their babies. There has to be a balance between the two.  

Perfect Mom no, I am not, there are so many failures on my part, it would require another blog. Hot ass mess Mom, nope, not that either. 

I get up 30 minutes before my kids, so I can have my coffee (no one wants to know me without my coffee), I stay up 30 minutes later sometimes to practice my yoga or eat brownies in the peace and quiet or veg out and watch Friends for the millionth time. It's called balance and making this Mom thing a priority - even when it's difficult.  

Take off those damn pajama pants, roll your face in a little makeup and get it together. Show your children you can handle being their Mom and have your own goals/life and not be a hot mess.  

 

This is 40 - The Rugged Maniac Edition

Listen, it was on my bucket list (or my 40 List as I’ve been calling it).  It sounded like a really great idea when I signed up for it. I am so glad I did it, but listen.  Don’t do what I did, sign up for it and do it 2 weeks later with zero preparedness.

If you’re going to do it, plan better and here’s what you need to do:

1.       Cardio, cardio and maybe another day of cardio.  The race in KC was at Snow Creek (ya, know, snow creek where people ski and therefore there would be ski hills to climb).  I read that part, but didn’t really pay attention.  Not only was this race at Snow Creek, it started by climbing a ski hill.  Like, that was the start. Like, before all obstacles. Like, right out of the gate. Like, it almost fucking killed me! There were several hills through the whole damn race, so, do your cardio!

2.       Buy some trail shoes.  In my head, I was never doing this again, so I thought I would be fine wearing my old shoes and donating them at the end of the race(which I did and they do wonderful, charitable things with them).  My old tennis shoes did not have nearly enough grip on them and the see-saw obstacle, I couldn’t even climb on without slipping and face planting. So, if you’re going to do it, hop over to Amazon and pick up a pair of trail running shoes, they’re like $20.

3.       Do it with a friend or maybe even a group.  Some of the obstacles you will likely need a boost, so having a strong friend is helpful. A group would be even better to help pull, push and encourage you too. 

4.       Sign up for an early time.  The earlier, the less tracked through the course is, the weather maybe a little cooler.  I went at noon – dumb, don’t do that. It was hot and there were some deeper holes from where other people had already run.  Not the end of the world, but ya, know just trying to make it easier (and I am being very loose with the word easy).

5.       Where tight fitted clothing and quick dry material if you can.  If you’re a girl with curves, a pair of pants with a drawstring to keep them up, also helpful.  Because when you’re waist deep in mud and getting your ass caught on barbed wire, you are going to at least want your pants to stay up.   I’d say a tank top, so your sleeves don’t get caught on barbed wire or other obstacles, but if you’re afraid of getting scrapped, maybe long sleeves, but also maybe you shouldn’t be doing this race.

6.      You need to Pack: bug spray, sun screen, Advil (there will be pain, there will be bruises) and allergy medicine! Not sure what I encountered, but it sent my outdoor allergies into hyper drive! Towels, wipes, change of clothes and shoes.  If I had been thinking, a disposable camera would have been fun, but they provide a ton of free photos from the pro-photogs along the course. 

All and all it is something I am glad I did at least once.  It did not turn me into an addict and leave me with this burning desire to do it again and again, but I would consider doing it again with a group of people or with couples…that would require me to have a boyfriend and friends that have boyfriends/spouses, but I digress.

I did feel strong and capable and accomplished when it was over.  I was impressed with myself crawling through the muck, because if you know me in real life, I don’t do dirt and mud for real! The biggest take away for me in this race is it restored my belief in humanity. Odd to say of a mud run, but it really did. Perfect strangers helping others and cheering each other on.  When I climbed the tall wooden wall (not sure what it’s called) I freaked.  It was way taller than I was prepared for, it was shaky and I climbed to the top and could not talk myself down the other side – enter Captain America.  Not really Captain America, but he was wearing the shirt and that’s what I called him.  He climbed up and said you can do it, you’ve got it – here, I’ll help you, let me help you! I mean, I could have just cried right there, but that wouldn’t be very maniac like of me! He (and other random strangers) were just so kind and encouraging and we could all use a little kindness that right there is reason enough to do the Rugged Maniac.

My Wardrobe Capsule #Project333

In staring my new job (and not being able to be so casual), I’ve was feeling stressed.  Not sure why, since I’m not big on keeping a lot of stuff around, but my closet was becoming the exception to that rule.  So much stuff, but nothing to wear!

I discovered:

Project 333

3 months 33 items of clothing

Yes, really.  I thought it was extreme and then I started to pair it down. Before we talk about how I got to my 33, take a look at the some descriptions:

What is a ‘capsule wardrobe”: In the 1970s, London boutique owner Susie Faux coined the term "capsule wardrobe" to describe a minimal wardrobe composed of 30 to 40 high-quality, versatile items that will meet your needs for a given time amount of time.

*Helpful hint: when using google to get some inspiration for your wardrobe, be specific.  If you just google “capsule wardrobe” you will likely get the 20-something fashionista version.  That will include short shorts, hooker heels and dresses for clubbin’…etc.  None of those things work for my life, so google capsule wardrobe and include your age or occupation or curvy or winter or all black…that will point you in a more realistic version. 

 

The Basics of What the 33 items are: (Taken from BeMoreWIthLess.com)

·         3 accessories: tote, sunglasses, scarf

·         5 shoes: (might drop this to 4)

·         6 outerwear/layering (raincoat, long sweater, jacket, vest, blazer, zip up sweatshirt)

·         3 dresses

·         5 bottoms (jeans, leggings, pants, shorts, skirt)

·         8 tops (2 long-sleeved, 6 short-sleeved)

·         3 pieces of jewelry (2 necklaces + 1 bracelet)

The Basics of What it is not:

·         What not: these items are not counted as part of the 33 items – wedding ring or another sentimental piece of jewelry that you never take off, underwear, sleep wear, in-home lounge wear,  and workout clothing (you can only wear your workout clothing to workout)

I started with my t-shirts.  I do love a good t-shirt, I have been known take them from friends and buy one at every concert and out of town trip. But there are some that just needed to go.  I had (literally) 25 tshirts from my gym.  In my defense, I work there part time and need a logo shirt for work, but 25 is probably a little much.

I created my donate pile when I really needed to do laundry.  Why? Because the things I truly wear every week are in the laundry basket.  The stuff in my closet, I clearly haven’t worn all week, maybe not all month.

I gave away the just in case I gain weight clothes, I gave away the just in case I get really skinny clothes and the shorts I bought on vacation that I never planned on wearing again and every other piece of clothing that was in bad shape (torn, missing buttons…etc). After that, turns out I didn’t have as much as I thought I did.

I started today (September 1st) and will document my outfit daily. I’m curious to see if anyone notices, I doubt they will, seeing as how I wear the same things all of the time anyway.  To make it a bit easier to start, I’ve decided to go with the seasonal plan, since I’m in Kansas and the weather can change by the hour.  Here is a Head-To-Toe Wardrobe Capsule Guide from The Refinery (http://www.therefinery.ca/wp-content/uploads/2015/05/head-to-toe-wardrobe-capsule.pdf) it helped guide me in my choices.

I already feel less stressed about what to wear tomorrow for work and if nothing else, it’s worth this current peace and contentment that I feel right now.

There’s a ton of people already doing this, you can see their stuff by searching or using the Hashtag: #Project333

Here’s to not stressing on what to wear for the next 3 months!

Free Summer Acvities!

Our summer break starts Friday and before you hear “I’m bored” about a million times. Here’s a list a free stuff to do in Kansas City to pass the time!

Parkville Nature Sanctuary: The kids and I visited this weekend and had so much fun.  You can hike trails, see the waterfall and play in the low line creek.  There are several benches to stop and rest or read a book or have a snack. The city of Parkville is adorable and there are several places for lunch, ice cream or mini-golf if you want to make a whole day of it.  Here's a list of events and rules to plan your visit:

Hours: Open every day, sunrise to sunset Rules: NO dogs or other pets allowed on the trails, Stay on trails, Put trash in proper receptacles, No unauthorized vehicles (including bicycles, skateboards, etc.), No fires, No hunting, fishing, or trapping, No picking, collecting, or digging, No firearms, No camping, No weddings

  • Ongoing through 2018: There is a monthly amateur photo contest for images taken at the Sanctuary FLYER

  • June 6-8: Nature Day Camp for students entering 3rd through 5th grades in fall 2018 (9:30am-2pm) FLYER

  • June 18-20: Youth trail maintenance volunteers 6th through 12th grades (9am-noon) FLYER

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Ride the Street Car! You can catch it any of these stops:

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Cool Off at a Spray Park:

Here is a list of spray parks, be sure to check the recommended safety rules for each park before you go. Kansas City Missouri Spray Parks:Harmony Park: E. 10th St & Agnes Ave., Jacob L. Loose Park: W. 52nd Terrace & Summit Ave.(Closed Wednesdays.), Sunnyside Park: W. 83rd St. & Summit Ave., Longview Tract: 7107 Longview Rd., Golden Oaks Park: N.E. 46th Street & N. Antioch Rd., Garrison Square: E. 4th St. & Forest Ave., Central Park: Linwood Blvd & Bales Ave., Nelson C. Crews Park: E. 27th St & Michigan Ave., Douglass Playground at Grace Williams Nicholl Park: 2632 Jarboe St.

Independence Missouri Spraygrounds: McCoy Park: 24 Highway & N. Delaware,  Rotary Park: 24th & Hardy

Grandview Missouri Spraygrounds: John Anderson Park: 4701 E. 135th Street

Liberty Missouri Spraygrounds: City Park: 970 S. Highway 291, Ruth Moore Park: 401 N. Morse

Kansas City Kansas Spraygrounds: Eisenhower Park: 2901 N. 72nd St., Heathwood Park: 10th & Parallel Pkwy, Pierson Park: 1800 S. 55th St.

More Free Activities:

  •  Marble making demo and Moon Marble Company. The kids can even learn how to shoot marbles and take a few home. Demos are usually given Tuesdays, Fridays and Saturdays at 10 or 10:30.
  • Cabela’s: A retail showroom, is a 180,000 sq. ft. hunting, fishing and outdoor gear store. Visit the 11,500 square ft. Mule Deer Country Museum with the world's largest collection of life-size trophy mule deer in their natural surroundings, including two world records and numerous state and province records. This retail store includes a laser arcade, archery range, art gallery, furniture department, gun library, restaurant, general store, fly fishing store, bargain cave and gift shop.  Kids will enjoy exploring the exotic animals in the African Diorama and coming face-to-face with giant catfish in the Aquarium
  • It goes without saying that the Nelson-Atkins Museum is a KC treasure and it’s free! It is closed Monday/Tuesday. Wednesday 10-5. Thursday/Friday 10-9 and Saturday/Sunday 10-5.
  • Scheels Mega Sports store in Overland Park. 16,000 gallon aquarium, Ferris wheel and games that cost $.25 to play.
  • Kidscape at the Johnson County Museum. 6305 Lackman Road. Kids can play dress up, be mayor for the day and see the suburban streetscape design.
  • Kalidoscope is always free, but reservations are recommended visit www.hallmarkkaleidoscope.com for times.
  • The Money Museum at the Federal Reserve Bank is an experience that even your teen will like. It is also free and open to the public. Here you’ll watch millions of dollars in currency being processed at KC’s Federal Reserve Bank and see an impressive collection of coins. Walk-in and guided tours are available and all guests undergo a security screening. If you are over 18, you’ll need to bring your ID. Call 816-881-2683 for more information.
  • The Cave Spring Historic Site and Nature Center has over 36 acres of wildlife and native plants with walking trails, wildlife habitat, pond and a small cave for kids to explore. Amazingly enough, it’s in the middle of the city. Location: 8701 E. Gregory Blvd. Hours: 9 am to dark every day. The Nature Center is open 10am-4pm Tuesday-Saturday. The Center is free, but small donations are accepted.
  • Attend a free family fun night at Mahaffie Stagecoach:
  • Take a tour of The Roasterie and learn about coffee. This is great for the pre-teen set and I did it on my last birthday and it was fun and I learned a lot about coffee!
  • Hike at Ernie Miller Nature Center.
  • Visit the free National Archives of Kansas City and explore their free exhibits.
  • Build a free project at Lowe’s or Home Depot. Both offer free workshops on select Saturdays.
  • Explore the Central Branch of the Kansas City Library, because any library with a parking garage painted with classic books has been named one of the coolest libraries to visit in the country!
  • Take a free class at Burr Oak Woods Nature Center.
  • Imagine you’re in the Wild West at Antioch Park in Shawnee, Kansas with an old town set up.

Be sure to check your city website.  Each city is full of summer activities, concerts and movies.  New to Lenexa this year is the Public Market.  Check out their website for a full list of fun things to do there: http://lenexapublicmarket.com/

 

Enjoy summer break, they will be back to school in no time!

How To Start Your Blog

1.       Pick a name.  Sounds simple, it is not.  You need something that is catchy and unique, but not so unique that people don’t know how to spell it when they are looking for you.

2.       Start with finding your niche.  I am a Lifestyle Blogger and that has evolved over time.  I started as an organizing blogger, then crafts, then added fitness and now lifestyle that encompasses more topics.  To start, you should decide what you are most passionate about and want to write about the most.

3.       Pick a host. I have used almost all of them and Word Press and Square Space are both very easy to use, especially for beginners.  The themes are great, easy to choose and edit yourself. They have options to sell products if that's what you plan to do, as well as connect all your social media channels. 

4.       Buy your domain name.  It’s always more professional to have mikitaburton.com instead of mikitaburton.wordpress.com (for example).  Domains are easy to buy through your host (word press or square space or whoever you chooses).  They are usually about $20 per year.

5. Make sure your blog is in line with your social media.  A lot of bloggers have personal pages, as well as business pages to keep their message consistent.  I am my own brand, so my personal and business mix well. 

6. Start writing.  As a general guide, I would have 3 - 5 post ready to go before you launch. 

7. Be consistent.  Honestly, it is still something I am working on. You want to write quality post as often as you can. 

8. Sign up for blogger reviews.  Staring out, you will need to write in exchange for product or tickets or exposure.  You won't get paid post right away, you will need to build a following and audience. 

9. Promote yourself using hashtags.  I've been accused of using too many hashtags and that's not a thing! Hashtags are how brands find you, how people find you when search for your niche. USE ALL THE HASHTAGS! 

10. Go! “They blew out a breath and did the thing all heroes must do—they took that terrifying first step.” 
― Chloe NeillMidnight Marked

So, This is 40?!

 

I will admit, I have definitely been having a whoa is me pity party.  This is not the life I planned or where I saw myself when I turned 40. 

I could not have predicted that, I'd be a divorced, single Mom of three, working 2 jobs, writing a book, publishing a blog and having zero love life(more about that in a future blog).

I thought I'd still be married, I thought maybe I'd be doing more TV, I knew I'd be working full time, since all the kids are in school and my stay at home mom life would end, I knew I'd have a kid graduating and 1/3 of the nest would be empty. Other than that, I hadn't really looked that far past the big 4-0.

Now that I'm here, it is time to forget about the life I planned and start making the most of the life I have. 

Most people do a vision board at New Year's, but I have always started my vision board on my birthday. To be honest, I already started planning my 2017 in September. This year of 40 will the best decade yet, at least that's what all my friends have told me. I will say, I do feel the most comfortable in my skin. I am not sure if that is age or the work I've put in on being fit,  healthy and doing things on purpose. 

My vision board includes a ton of things,too many to list,but some of them:

Tops on that list- travel. There are lots of places I want to go, but first on the list is a beach. Maybe back to Cali or Hawaii, but the beach is definitely calling. 

Next - saving. Since, I'm getting older retirement is on the brain.  If it wasn't on my mind because of this birthday,  we can just say seeing Luke Perry on the cover of AARP cut like a knife! 

Do this splits - again. I used to be able to drop down and do the splits with ease. Those days are gone, but I'm still pretty flexible and plan to be able to do them again this year! Of course, there will be social media post when that happens! 

I won't bore you with too many more,but lastly - alone time.

There is just not a lot of it to go around. I know it won't always be this way, that kids do grow up and soon my nest will be totally empty. I also know that you can't pour from an empty cup,so taking care of me is on the list.

So, this is me - at 40. Ready to begin a new decade and excited for all the new dreams and promise it brings with it. 

 

All Things Mikita

Today, I launch my new blog. In a lot of ways it is perfectly me and in others it is what I aspire to be. This blog is a fresh start. A clean slate and a canvas to create exactly what I want. 

 I have started over a time or two in my. Well, 5 or 10 if I'm being honest and there is always a peace that comes with a fresh start. In my quest to reset, I started doing some research and study. I wanted to know how and why people start over. A googled, I asked some of my most deeply spiritual friends, I read and I meditated. 

One of the cleansing rituals that spoke to me was smudging. The practice of burning sage to "smudge" or clean a space. 

I won't lie, when I started this re-brand my whole damn life needed to be smudged. 

I figured could not hurt and maybe I'd learn something in the process. I Googled where to buy my smudge stick (found it at whole foods) and I began. 

I opened my windows, turned on my fan. 

Lit the smudge stick, then blew out the fire. Watched it smoke (much like you did with incense back in the day).

Walked through my room and set my intention for my space. 

Waved it over my lap top and said my intention for my blog. 

Finally, I cupped the smoke and pushed it around my body and said my prayer for myself. 

 

I know, it sounds way left. Total hippy and weird. I don't know if it was the quiet, the smoke or saying my intentions,but I immediately felt calm. Settled. Ready to open this new chapter. 

I'm not telling you to go smudge, but I will say, your words, prayers and thoughts have power. It is my goal to be intentional in my words for this blog and I think the smudging was a perfect start.

 

This blog will of course have the product reviews, weight loss tips, a giveaway or 2, beauty and fashion stuff that most blogs contain. It is also my hope that some of my words inspire you, provoke your thoughts and maybe motivate you to pursue your passion. 

 

Welcome to All Things Mikita. 
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